Isn’t it true that if you contact somebody listed as an appliance repairman to repair your washing machine, you expect them to be able to fix it? And wouldn’t it be strange if you found out people who listed themselves as appliance repairmen had a success rate of less than 10% when it came to repairing washing machines?

Well hold onto your hat!

Not only do marriage counselors have about the same rate of divorce as everyone else, but their success rate in helping other couples is typically below 10%. Worse than that, most people who go to marriage counselors end up getting a divorce within a year; their usual excuse is that these people were “destined” to get a divorce but made a last ditch effort. But that’s like a doctor who loses all of his patients to death saying they were going to die anyway; it just doesn’t cut it.

Yet marriage counselors get away with it because of the protection they get from their professional organizations; the whole thing is very disturbing. It is most disturbing to me because of the number of children impacted by divorce.

Isn’t a 50 to 60% divorce rate extremely high by any standard?

Marriage is Spiritual by Nature, Not Psychological

The reason marriage counseling will not produce a healthy marriage is because marriage counseling is an attempt at treating people’s psychological difficulties instead of addressing the innate structural problems within the marriage. A psychologist wrongly believes the partners need to be psychologically fully functional, and that is just plain wrong.

God invented marriage and knows very well that we’re not perfect. He created marriage so we would have a safe haven in this chaotic world. He didn’t create marriage in order for us to have more focused suffering. But if we approach marriage psychologically instead of spiritually we completely miss the points for which marriage was intended and we will inevitably suffer a great deal.

The way to a healthy marriage is through learning the fundamental spiritual principles that define marriage as well as the behaviors that are conducive and beneficial.

The Spiritual Principles that Define Marriage are Simple

Many couples spend six, eight or even more months trying to improve their marriage through regular marriage counseling and therapy. I met with many such couples who came to see me because in spite of all of their effort their marriage was not progressing. Typically within 20 minutes these couples were gazing lovingly into each other’s eyes, holding hands and reaffirming the love that initially brought them together.

Not one couple I met with needed more than six hours to create a solid foundation for their newfound marriage. The simplicity of spiritual principles is overwhelming in their purity. They are easy to understand and easy to utilize.

Never give up hope. Stop banging your heads against the wall. When your effort is made in the right direction the results come quickly. If your efforts are unimaginably intense but aimed in the wrong direction you will never succeed. Learn and follow the fundamental spiritual principles that create and guide a healthy marriage so you can know the promised joy.



By: Paul Friedman

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For those about to be wed, a marriage license is a requirement for couples living all around the world. A marriage license is used by local governments to cover fees associated with filing documentation and performing legal name changes. They are also done to protect the couples in many states, as blood testing and DNA screening is required in order to secure your license.

If you are in need of a marriage license, it is important to keep a few things in mind. First, there is usually a delay between when you acquire your license and when you can have your wedding. Plan in advance! In some areas, it can take over six months to acquire your license. In others, the delay is only a matter of a few minutes or hours. Las Vegas is a good example of a place with a very short delay in acquiring your marriage license and being able to tie the knot with your partner. Click Here 

A marriage license serves as proof that you are in a relationship with someone. This has many legal ramifications. As such, it is vital that you keep this document safe. While it is usually easy to acquire another copy of the license, you may be called on at any time to provide this documentation. If you are immigrating to another country, or if you want to take spousal credits on your taxes, this document can be the difference between success and failure. 

When you obtain your marriage license, you will be asked several questions. At the very least, you will need to provide information on your future husband or wife, yourself, where you both live and note whether or not there is any relations between you. Many states and regions do not permit cousins of certain degrees to be wed. This is to prevent siblings and closer relatives to become married. 

Many regions will require that you and your future partner show in person together to acquire the marriage license. This is so that you can

both take an oath that all of the information that you are providing is accurate. As you can get many tax benefits from marriage, governments try to take steps to ensure that you are eligible to be wed. Click Here 

If you are planning to be wed in a foreign country, it is vital that you acquire all of the required visas and marriage license well in advance. As many countries have extremely strict rulings on marriage, you want to make sure that you have everything you need covered before you board your plane. If you are planning on having a foreign or exotic wedding, you may want to hire a wedding planner to ensure everything that you need is covered. 

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I would like to cover every aspect of this topic. In order to keep things short I have only included the major topics detailed as good as possible. 

Getting a marriage license online is only available to those who have already registered for their license in court and need a substitution copy. This is only available in certain regions, as there are rigid rules on who can acquire a marriage license in many States and Provinces. As your marriage license is an important, identifying document, being able to order them online is exceedingly convenient. Click Here 

When you go to purchase a marriage license online, it is important to remember that this is a transcript of the fully executed certificate. There are very few instances where you get acquire the document that allows you to wed somebody on the internet. This is due to the fact that wedding allows you tax benefits, as well as other benefits. Due to the legal ramifications of marriage, States and Provinces do not permit the authorizing documents to be purchased online. 

There are several pieces of info that you will need to order a marriage license online. The information required is dependent on which State of Province that you are acquiring a license from. However, you can normally expect to need the type of certificate you want ordered, the applicant’s name, telephone number, date of issue or marriage date, as well as an order or file number if applicable. If you cannot provide all of this information, you will not be able to place an order for your certificate online. 

If you are having trouble ordering a marriage license online, there are other ways that you can acquire your documents. You can appear in the county court and request a copy, as well as asking a copy by phone or mail. You will still need to know as much of the required information as you can, as this is what is required to locate the document. 

If you are missing information, ordering a marriage license online will be impossible. In fact, trailing down your marriage certificate will be intriguing even using other venues. If you are searching for a relatives’ certificate, for example, you may need to surf through public archives. These can be grouped by name, by date and by location, which can make finding the certificate you need difficult. Click Here 

If you do not need a legal copy of your marriage certificate, you may be able to order a marriage license online by doing a genealogy check on yourself and your family. As marriage certificates are commonly used to reference the family tree, basic information on certificates tend to be stored so they can search relatives. 

Well that’s all I have for you here I hope the information was of good use.



By: Alfred Ngoasheng

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In today’s world there are so many marriages that are on the rocks. They are in turmoil and ending up in a messy divorce. So you may ask how can you save this marriage. If your marriage has hit the pushing limits a divorce may not be the answer. Too many couples lack the fortitude to work on a solution but instead feel it’s easier to just let go. There are many solutions that can be worked on to save a marriage, but they must have the commitment of both partners. Counseling should be the first step in saving a marriage. This puts another person with an unbiased opinion into the picture to help straighten out the problems.

There are also other things that can be done outside any professional help to help save the marriage. They are not difficult and only require that both partners work towards the common goal of fixing the marriage. The following advice if utilized and taken to heart will improve your odds of “saving the marriage”.

It is very possible to “Save Your Marriage” if you understand that the perfect marriage is a myth. There will always be some kinds of problems whenever you bring two people together. This is only human nature. Identical twins will even differ in likes and dislikes. The trick is to learn to deal with the rough patches and be able to handle the problems that occur. It will only destroy the marriage if you seek to make it perfect. Work with your partner to overcome problems, we all make mistakes, and possibly you will be on your way to “saving your marriage”.

Secondly, there must be communication between both parties. This is vital in a marriage because without good communication a marriage is doomed. Honesty between both partners is the essence of a good marriage. Most all problems can be resolved when both partners communicate with each other.

Compromise then becomes the next tip in “saving your marriage”. World leaders must compromise to make things work. What makes you think that things must always go your way? Marriage is a compromise between two people who love each other. When things get better and you are both loving each other you will want to do everything your partner wants.

When your car stalls or you get a flat tire, you don’t just discard the car and get a new one. You get it fixed and back in running order. This is the same for your marriage. Both you and your partner need to have a commitment to the marriage. You need to work towards “saving your marriage” and commitment is an important step.

Divorce is the only answer if a marriage has so much damage that nothing can help. There are some issues that can’t be resolved even by counseling. In these cases divorce is inevitable. You should work with your partner to resolve issues before they get to a point of no return. If you work hard at issues that plague your marriage you will be able to work out “saving your marriage”



By: Frank T Renner

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“Marriages are made in heaven” goes the old saying, however some marriages are deemed to be made in hell by society and the majority is unwilling to give their consent to such marriages.

Gay marriage or marriage between the same sexes is sneered upon by many and the US government has reservation to grant legal recognition to such marriage. Though public marriage records of such unions have been found in Connecticut and Massachusetts where it is not considered to be illegal, the Federal government is sternly against such practice.

This has been a controversial political issue for long time and many powerful politicians are against such practices. It is widely believed that same sex marriage can contribute to a staggering rise in AIDS, be emotionally excruciating for children whose parents are involved and could make way for a next social movement for legalization of polygamy or incest.

Some say this is very much against nature and could be detrimental for mankind. The kind of commitment, love and responsibility that is expected in normal marriage is not believed to be there by society in same sex marriage between people. It is believed to be an outlet for base, carnal desires that gives rise to endless misery and pain.

Homosexuality is said to have its root in ancient India and examples are galore. Sculptures and scriptures talk a lot about sexuality between similar gender and such behavior was considered to evoke great sexual pleasure. There are references in The Kamasutra and lesbianism is depicted in unabashedly as a wellspring of sensory pleasure and enjoyment.

With time the situation changed and there are references of society becoming intolerant of such behavior and contriving capital punishment for such behavior, especially in the era of Vedic Brhamanism and during British colonization.

Public marriage records are there in modern India where marriage has taken place between people of same sex. Constitution confers the right to every individual according his/her wish and nobody can intervene. There has been a lot of movement to get same sex marriages legalized throughout the world and human rights association has extended support for the cause.

There is a body called GLAD in England (gay and lesbians’ advocates and defenders) which has successfully completed its 30 years, championing similar sex marriage and protecting people from discrimination.

 

There are successful marriage records of people who are content with similar sex marriage and since Connecticut made it legal such marriages have come up big way. GLAD conducts workshops for couple willing to go for such marriage and mentors them as to how to make a meaningful, long lasting relationship.

To summarize, the message is clear, the modern world is much more tolerant and ready to empathize with people whose interest may seem a little off beat from the rest of the pack but who definitely belong to a much larger fraternity, who belong to our own human race.

Where same sex marriages are permitted, it would be interesting to examine, in the future, how the divorce records for such marriages fare compared to traditional marriages which currently have a divorce rate of about 50% in the US.



By: Mike K

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With over half of all marriages in the U.S. ending in divorce, the institution of marriage is in trouble. Marriage is something special-and something that has been part of all human society since the beginning of time, bolstering claims that marriage is an institution generated by God.

The idea of marriage counseling was established as an accepted practice in the 1950s. The primary goal of marriage counseling is to maintain an unwavering married life for couples. These counselors believe that it is not right for a married couple to abandon their vows and forget the love that once had bound them together just because of some human weaknesses.

However, not all professionals agree that marriage counseling gives lasting benefits and promotes change in individuals. In spite of its many advantages, some people still find some fault with this kind of psychological strategy.

Counseling and Your Marriage-The Pros:

. Marriage counseling helps you know you are not alone. Some couples, especially those who do not like “burdening” their friends and family with their problems, tend to think that they are the only couple who is experiencing their problem. After speaking with a marriage counselor, these couples can realize that they are not the only ones with an unhappy marriage, and can more readily deal with the problem.

. Marriage therapy can assist spouses to understand each other better. If spouses are working toward the same goal in two totally different ways, it can cause friction. Therapy with a trained consellor can be a good place to work out these personality quirks in a safe environment.

The Disadvantages of Marriage Therapy:

. Some couples tend to depend on marriage counseling. There are many instances where people do not exert any effort to resolve their problems on their own because they know that there is a marriage counselor that they can turn to.

. Sometimes, one partner wants the marriage to work and the other doesn’t. When one partner does not want to work on the problems, it can mean the death of the marriage. At that point, no amount of counseling will work, and the partner who wants to make the marriage work gets frustrated and angry.

Marriage is all about compromise. Compromise is hard. With or without marriage counseling, married couples should learn to solve their problems. Counseling can be a place to learn these skills, but should never be the only thing used to save a shaky marriage.



By: Jill Brennan

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