natwilsc asked:


Hello, I am a Cadet in the Army and will be commissioned at the end of this school year. My question is I met a girl who is joining the Navy reserves and plans to become an officer too but won’t be able to for at least another half school year. My question is we have so much in common and have a lot of fun together but I was just wondering how strict the reserve side would be on dating somone from another branch who is also in the reserves and is planning to become an officer but isnt at the moment? I know there is a good chance that I wouldnt even half to sneek around because in the reserves no one would even know since it is a once a month thing but I dont really want to get in trouble at all.

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Have you met someone through online dating that you are now trying to get rid of? There are plenty of ways to finish up the friendship nicely. Try to remember that you should always treat others the way you would like to be treated yourself.

Obviously with online dating, much as in real life, the friendship moves through various stages. Different stages can require different ways of saying, or sending, the dreaded “It’s not you, it’s me”.

New friends are probably the easiest to brush off. If you have only been chatting a few times and haven’t gotten to the stage of exchanging personal details, there are a couple of ways to go. There are 2 extremely popular ways of giving your online dating friend the brush off at this stage. Personally I think both of them are a bit cowardly. The first is to just stop answering your friend’s emails. They usually get the hint and stop messaging you. The other is to constantly think up new excuses as to why you shouldn’t move to the next stage.

Why not just be a little honest? Why not say something like “It’s been great chatting but I don’t think there is any point in continuing”. Making up excuses can just leave the other person hanging on and continuing to message you till they get the hint. (Some people are slower than others.)

Online dating friends that you have exchanged details with or even dated a few times can be a bit more tricky. If you have met up on a date then you should tell them you are no longer keen. Ignoring phone calls, texts and emails is the coward’s way out. Give the person a call and tell them that you don’t think it is going to go anywhere. There is no need to be rude. If you have actually met up in person then dumping them by text or email is rude. You can either call them and tell them, or wait for them to contact you and then decline the date, explaining there won’t be any more dates.

Are You Being Given The Brush Off?

These statements and behaviours are virtual guarantees that they are no longer interested:

Unanswered messages and phone calls.

Your phone calls always go straight through to voice mail or message bank.

“We need to talk”.

“It’s not you, it’s me.”

“We just aren’t in the same place right now.”

“I’m too busy for a relationship right now.”

Effective and Fast Brush Off Lines:

I want to get married and have your baby as soon as possible.

I think I might be ***.

Ultimately, the most effective and the most polite way of giving your online dating friend the brush off is to use a little tact and honesty. Too much tact, though, and they may not get the hint. Try to be honest in a constructive way. The easiest rule for online dating brush offs is to keep it simple and don’t make a fuss.



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Where do you go when you are looking for love?

Are you considering joining an online dating site but not sure it’s for you?

Let me tell you how I first discovered online dating and why I firmly believe it fits in with our modern day lifestyles.

A couple of years ago online dating still had a stigma attached to it. Although people were using the internet as a method of dating, they did not discuss it with friends or colleagues for fear of coming across desperate.

I recall a friend of mine who was initially embarrassed to tell me she had joined an online dating site. At the time, I was rather surprised as she was an attractive girl who would be considered quite a catch. However, after chatting to her I completely understood why she had resorted to this method of dating; she was simply tired of meeting timewasters who were not interested in committing to a relationship.

Whilst she had no desire to date some of the men who contacted her, there were quite a few she was interested in and she began a dating spell to make any “singleton” jealous. She then struck up an online relationship with someone who lived 100 miles from her. After exchanging many emails and chatting on the telephone, she decided to meet him. Obviously, the distance didn’t make the relationship ideal but the spark was there and she enjoyed 6 months dating someone with similar interests, shared romantic weekends together and had a fantastic holiday. Although he didn’t turn out to be “the one”, when I asked if she regretted joining an online dating site her answer was “Definitely not!” Her view was that if she hadn’t joined an online dating site, those 6 months would have been spent moaning about meeting the same timewasters in the same old haunts and wondering “what if”. She was simply being proactive in her search for love; after all life is far too short!

If you’re not convinced online dating is for you, here are 11 reasons why I think online dating has its advantages:-

1. You don’t have to wait until the weekend to meet someone.

2. You don’t have to get dressed up for a night “online”. Wear whatever you feel comfortable in at home.

3. If you work unusual hours online dating fits in with your schedule. You can log on at any time of the day to suit you; there is always someone online waiting to chat.

4. If you start chatting to someone and then decide they are not what you are looking for, put them back in the net gently and choose another. There are plenty of fish in the sea!

5. If you are tired of seeing the same old faces when you go out, there are people of all age groups all across the country waiting online to meet someone.

6. If you are new to an area online dating is a great way of meeting people whether it’s for friendship or dating. If you meet a few people online in your area, you can arrange a get together for you all rather than meeting on a one-to-one basis.

7. If all of your friends have settled down or you have recently become single what better way to meet new someone quickly than to go online and meet more singles!

8. Anonymous messaging and chat rooms let you flirt to your heart’s content without any embarrassment or getting tongue-tied.

9. You will probably find out more about someone online before you arrange a date with them than you would if you had met them in a bar. Online dating usually makes people more cautious about who they choose to date and in this day and age that can’t be a bad thing!

10. We now live and date very differently to previous generations where the traditional place to meet people was in nightclubs, parties, at work or through friends. By joining an online dating site you are not excluding these avenues but simply extending your opportunities of meeting someone.

11. Finally, 1 month’s membership costs less than a night out and gives you hundreds of opportunities to meet your perfect partner – every night!

With so many positive reasons to go online for love, finding your perfect partner has never been easier. Try it out for yourself and please let me know how you’re doing.

Read more about Online Dating at: Online Dating Guide Blog



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what’s up? asked:


I have a 14-1/2 year old freshman daughter who was just asked to homecoming. I am allowing her to go, as they are going in a large group and I have just met the young man for the first time. I still maintain she’s too young to date one-on-one and she cannot get into a car with someone that I have not met/do not know. What rules have you set up with your teen and dating?
I have a 19 year old son who did not start dating until he was a junior/senior in high school. He was interested in school activities, sports and working - so I was not prepared for this to happen so soon.
Please no sarcastic comments - I am looking for parents’ replies - not other teens. Thanks!

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